Today I received a corrected certificate from the Secretary of State

Now it's time for the next step in re-titling Mom's van. I tried to call the state DMV office, and after listening to their full suite of voicemail options, the recording advised me that the DMV is closed today for a "state holiday". This is Lincoln's birthday, and we are one of 4 states that recognizes it as a holiday. Strangely, Indiana celebrates Lincoln's birthday on the day after Thanksgiving.

So it seems serendipitous that I should start to share the story of the second time my mom and I went to Chicago, on Thanksgiving weekend of 2001. I'd wanted to photograph the Christmas lights on Michigan Avenue. Of all the photos I've taken over the years, the ones I took on this trip are some of my favorites. This one hung in my living room for years.

I think all we did on this trip was walk around town. Looking back, it's surreal to think that my mom could still do things like that not so many years ago. More recently, she couldn't walk more than a few steps without sitting down. She spent so many years, waiting. Four years waiting for her divorce to go through. Two more waiting for property to sell. By the time she could afford to do the things she'd been waiting to do, there was so little time left to do them. I remember how she'd talk about having her life "on hold" while she was divorcing my dad. Once the divorce was over, her life wouldn't be "on hold" any more. There's a life lesson there somewhere. That Montana van, these stories I'm sharing, represent the brief window of freedom in my mom's life between the "on hold" cage she created for herself in her mind and the eventual cage of her wrecked body.

I, too, create cages for myself… but looking at these old photos and remembering these #montanastories helps to remind me that I don't have to.

Today I received a corrected certificate from the Secretary of State. Now it’s time for the next step in re-titling Mom’s van. I tried to call the state DMV office, and after listening to their full suite of voicemail options, the recording advised me that the DMV is closed today for a “state holiday”. This is Lincoln’s birthday, and we are one of 4 states that recognizes it as a holiday. Strangely, Indiana celebrates Lincoln’s birthday on the

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10 thoughts on “Today I received a corrected certificate from the Secretary of State

  1. Makes me cry. I well know this cage. My husband and I have our life on hold. We have cared for dying parents for most of our marriage. There is the fear my husband s health will fail by the time we are free. The struggle to live admist death is real.

  2. It is hard to see the ones you love suffer +Renee McDaniel. Thank you for sharing. You are absolutely right. It is a struggle to live amidst death. I hope you have many good years with your husband ahead. It would be heartbreaking to lose your partner as well, after all you have been through together.

  3. I have felt like this. …until after the kids turn 18 and leave…until after we move…until after…. Well damn it. I am tired of being on hold. I have decided to just get on with life. No more holding for others. … well after …. lol.

    Great story. You are right, Carpe de Em.

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